Men’s Testimonies: Men Hurt Too!

Abortion has many victims, and one of them is the father of the child. The laws of the United States do not acknowledge the right a father to stop the abortion of his own child, but rather place that act solely within the decision of the mother.

This raises a multitude of problems.

On the one hand, the father who wants to defend the life of his child is often accused of meddling in something that is not his business.

On the other hand, the father who wants to leave the (mistaken) decision of abortion in the hands of the mother alone is often accused of being uncaring and distant. This, in turn, can create feelings of isolation in the mother, which in turn makes it easier for her to resort to abortion.

Furthermore, the law is a powerful teacher. It says the father has no rights in the abortion decision. But the other side of the coin of “rights” is “responsibilities.” The current state of the law regarding fathers and abortion can easily foster a sense of irresponsibility in young men.

Post-abortion counseling services are seeing an increasing number of men come forward, grieving their aborted children. Many of the same dynamics of post-abortion distress that we see in women are are also present in men.We offer here some testimonies of fathers whose children have been killed by abortion.

Men’s Testimonies: Men Hurt Too!

  • Eric, New York: For my Emmanuelle [Read Transcript]
  • Mike, Michigan: A little piece of my heart. [Read Transcript]
  • Nandom, Nigeria: Nandom insisted that his girlfriend have an abortion, but he did not consider the physical and emotional pain it would cause both of them. [Read Transcript]
  • Anonymous: The Awakening [Read Transcript]
  • Anonymous: I was her boyfriend of just a few months [Read Transcript]
  • Anonymous: A Father’s Testimony: I was a coward [Read Transcript]
  • Anonymous: A father’s reflection… [Read Transcript]
  • Anonymous: A Father’s Post-Abortion Testimony [Read Transcript]
  •  Bryan: Silent No More [Read Transcript]
  • Fr. Hugo L. Blotsky, O.S.B.: A Father Grieves the Death of His Aborted Son [Read Transcript]
  • Phil McCombs, Washington Post Staff Writer: Remembering Thomas. Responsibility, Guilt and a Child Who Never Was [Read Transcript]
  • Paul Chimera: The abortion was long ago, but for a regretful father the guilt lingers on.[Read Transcript]

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